“It’s not the happy people who are thankful, it’s the thankful people who are happy”
The other day I asked a friend of mine how everything was going, half expecting the traditional answer of “Everything is good” or “Living the dream”. Instead, I just got the answer “Blah”. Hah! Blah!
In between me being unsure of whether “Blah” meant that their life is the equivalent of a drunken frat boy hugging the porcelain throne or an ugly monster jumping out of a closet to scare you, I kind of started to think that things were going quite the same for me at the moment. Just “Blah!”
Like nothing is really that bad, but kind of thinking things could be a lot better too.
It’s right about then that someone who thinks their life is “blah” decides to go skydiving or move to Alaska and live off the land. Maybe quit their job and discover their passion for walking around naked and join a nudist colony (fun fact: I love wearing my birthday suit as much as possible).
“Blah” is like the equivalent of “I need to do more crazy sh*t”
Does that mean were unhappy? Does that mean were not satisfied?
Partially, I think.
But, as much as I would love to watch everyone lose control for a change and do something extreme, being in a “Blah” state of mind can be incredibly hazardous and, a lot of the time, is completely unwarranted.
A lot of the time the “Blah” state of mind, which we can just label as a feeling where our life is in a rut and we need to be happy, do more, and be more, is a result of the society we live in projecting onto us what it means to be happy.
Social media is a huge factor here. Whether we like it or not, that great friend of ours who is constantly traveling and posting amazing pictures on social media becomes the bane of our existence and a stick in the a$$ when we’re slaving away at the local 9-5, dying for just that Friday happy hour.
Commercials, TV and Billboards too. We get to watch those sexy models prance around in their luxury resorts wearing the latest fashion or the dumbest individuals on the planet make millions off a reality TV show while we’re doing laundry and hoping an earthquake erupts and rips our work place to shreds.
It’s a shame, really, because I want for all of us to be able to experience the things we see every day. The luscious beaches. The fastest cars. The most amazing love. Mind-blowing sex. Lobster on the regular. Enough escargot until we choke!
But the thing is, we can still be happy without all that!
In fact, we don’t need anything else to be happy!
Feeling “Blah” or unhappy about how things are going is a direct result of us losing sight of what we already have and already can do. We get so caught up in everything around us and everything that everyone else has that we forget to look inside our own ballpark and see everything we got, and especially everything we can get!
And this makes us be unhappy. And being unhappy is bad! You can quote me on that one.
So, I’ve come up with my favorite 9 (out of literally millions) of reasons we can be gracious for being given a life and always find happiness no matter where we are at.
- We have people who care about us
I’m sure there are some people who exist on Earth (although I’ve never met them) who literally have not one person who cares about them. Not one. And I have to think to myself “They got to be THE biggest jerk ever”.
For god sakes even in the bible when everyone hated the lepers, at least the other lepers were like “Yo, fellow leper, you can come chill with us.”
For the 99% of humanity, we all have someone who care about us whether they be friends, family, pets, coworkers, or the bird who loves to sh*t on our cars each day. Waking up and reminding ourselves that our life is meaningful to someone is enough of a reason to always be happy.
- We care about ourselves
This one goes out to the guy or girl with literally not one person who cares about them.
Regardless of how everything is going, we need to be able to smile at ourselves in the mirror and be happy with being us. When our lives are in a “Blah” phase, being able to turn to ourselves and be our own best friend is one of the best things we can possibly do.
It’s also a great excuse to pamper ourselves. Go get a massage or break off that diet for a day and splurge. Remind yourself that we can get through anything and everything.
- We are alive
Not sure I need to explain much more with this one.
If all else, at least we are not dead! We can smile that we’ve been given another day out here in the wilderness and make the best of what we’ve been given.
- We have dreams
So we don’t have that big house we want yet or haven’t gotten that promotion we’ve been looking for. We haven’t found that special someone or we haven’t had time to complete our goals.
The fact that we have dreams that we’re willing to chase and goals we are willing to work for shows that we are willing to work for the life we want and not settle for less. Patience is the key to let things work their course but it is great to know that having these dreams alone is enough to be happy.
- We have overcome obstacles
The sad fact of life is that bad stuff is going to happen and it is going to happen pretty frequently.
Today I woke up and stepped in gum in my own kitchen and I literally wanted to tear the house down.
But, I got through it. I scrapped that gum off and didn’t let it ruin my day!
Whether big or small, we’ve all gotten through some bad times and we’re still out here kicking. Don’t ever forget how strong you are.
- We can have sex
Yes! Yes we can!
Do you feel bad for all of the animals who have the females just lay the eggs and the males come over and relieve themselves to inseminate the eggs? I do! That sucks!
We, humans, get to partake in the amazing mutual pleasure of having sex.
Don’t let the pornos fool you, you don’t have to last 45 minutes like all those porn stars do. That’s just absurd!
Just have fun, enjoy it, and celebrate the fact that two people can mutually love one another and enjoy such an amazing act.
- We are able to love and be loved
Whether we have found love before or haven’t found love before, the pursuit of achieving such an amazing feeling is worth the wait entirely.
And, for those who have loved and have lost, be happy in having been able to experience it and hopeful that it will return once again.
Opening ourselves to another human being and becoming one together, or even simply being loved by a relative or family member, can be something that is always forgotten and is worth more than gold.
- We are capable of living our own life
There can be a lot of times in our lives where we end up having to do things we don’t want to do, like take that job picking up poop in our uncle’s backyard (this guy!) or change the dirty diapers of a sick baby.
But, for the most part, our life is an opening book. We are able to choose where we want to go, what we want to do, what we want to see and who we want to see it with. This is something that a lot of people (cough cough communism) don’t have the privilege of experiencing.
Let’s be thankful for this!
- We can accomplish anything
Last but definitely not least, the beauty of each of our lives is that no matter who we are or what we have gone through, we can accomplish basically anything. Anything is possible! Anything can happen! We can learn any skill, accomplish any goal, make any amount of money!
It is all possible.
And that alone, the possibility of being or achieving anything, is enough to smile about and be happy.
Never take these things for granted and be thankful at all times for everything life has to offer.