I recently wrote an article for my friend Louise Mercier at Succès Mode D’Emploi which I wanted to share with you all. You can click on the link to visit the original article or read my copy below. Enjoy!
“Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it” – Steve Maraboli
One of the basic principles of achieving any success in life is to study the people who have achieved it before us. It is quite often you’ll hear a successful person mention a mentor, a hero, or a role model that they looked up to on their road to greatness. For that reason, many of us adopt this idea as well, often recreating the style, training, or the habits of someone who has accomplished what we would we would one day like to achieve.
In studying our role models, it is easy to get lost in studying only what we see on the outside – how they dress, how they talk or how they act. While these are crucial pieces to the puzzle, the most important area to success cannot be seen with the naked eye and, therefore, is often overlooked. This is the area where all successful people separate themselves from the rest: the mindset.
Here are 5 mindset changes all successful people make:
They accept who they are
One of the best lessons we can learn from Gary Vaynerchuk, author of Crush It: Why NOW Is the Time to Cash In on Your Passion and icon in the social media industry, is to stop pretending to be someone we’re not and start accepting exactly who we are. In a world where we are constantly connected to one another, it can be difficult not to get sucked into what everyone else is doing with their lives. As we observe other individuals doing fulfilling work, it’s natural for us to start doubting our character and to lose focus on ourselves.
Successful people remove themselves from this. These individuals shift their mindset to focus on learning who they are and then expanding themselves from there. With a solid foundation in place, they can move forward with their goals and escape any doubt or uncertainty of their decision.
They do not quit on their goals
It’s a common lesson that, in attempting to achieve success, we must become comfortable with failure. Numerous successful people have discussed this enough to the point that this mindset shift is needs no explanation.
What successful people know, however, is the difference between failing and becoming a failure.
The difference between failing and becoming a failure is that we only become a failure when we quit. If we never quit trying to achieve success, we fail but never become a failure. This mindset shift is often the reason success people continue to push through their failures and don’t throw in towel to defeat.
They focus on us and not themselves
Once a successful person accepts who they are, they completely shift their focus to us: their audience.
The beauty of this is point is that it’s no different from the individual who is successful on their own to the large corporation with thousands of employees. What both examples have in common is they are each providing a service to someone. This can be selling a pair of shoes to a teenager or providing consulting to an insurance agency – they’re both a service.
With their identity set, these successful people focus only on how they can better help their audience. This is how new products are made or new content is produced: by focus on the needs of the audience. Successful people have mastered the shift from “what is best for myself” to “what is best for my audience”.
They’ve accepted the past and only look to the future
Think back to our younger years when everyone wanted to have the coolest new toy or clothing. Most of us were envious of those around us who could get their hands on the newest fad or see the newest movie before everyone else.
In our world today, it’s easy to notice that those who are most successful seem to be ahead of the curve and are exploiting the newest trends before anyone else even knows they exist. This is because all successful people have transitioned their minds to forget about what has happened in the past and focus on only on what is coming. In doing so, they stay one step ahead of everyone else and position themselves perfectly for success in the future.
They are constantly learning and growing
“The master has failed more times than the beginner has ever tried” is a famous quote by Stephen McCrane that can sum up this notion perfectly.
One of the areas that separates us from each other is talent. Often, we’ll find that what can be difficult to some might come naturally to others. This can lead us to become envious of those who are successful because we can feel their talents and skills came easy, while ours take years to develop or don’t develop at all.
What most don’t realize is successful people maintain a growth mindset. The growth mindset is a mindset where one believes they can achieve or accomplish anything with enough work and practice. It’s a mindset where trying your best and pushing to do better each time is more fulfilling than winning or losing. With this mindset, a successful person knows that they can try anything and, with enough effort, grow to become successful.