When I was a sophomore in college, our school’s winter dance event started off with a few friends and I finishing a couple bottles of liquor. Apparently, the other students all had the same idea as the event was shut down when the dancing quickly turned into falling.
That night I was faced with a choice: get laid or put my drunk friend to bed. I chose door number 1, and unfortunately that wasn’t a good decision. Not only did I not get any action, but the friend got into some trouble with the law, leaving me feeling pretty terrible.
Inevitably, we’re all going to make bad decisions in life. We could say the wrong thing to a coworker, hook up with someone we shouldn’t, or get wasted on a night out and make a complete fool of ourselves. Maybe we got in a fight. Maybe we hurt someone we love. Whatever the case, we wake up and are upset with what we’ve done.
It’s here that reality sets in and we need to regroup from the bad decisions we’ve made. Here are 5 ways we can make this easier on ourselves.
Don’t make any quick decisions
Right after we do something we regret, or realize we’ve made a mistake, we’re very quick to try to rectify any damage. Don’t. Acting impulsively after a bad decision can lead to a whirlwind of regret. Take some time to think over the situation before taking any steps towards a solution.
Don’t hate yourself
We all make bad decisions, and it doesn’t matter if we’ve made this decision several times before. We’re human and we’re not always smart at learning these things. The truth is it’s OK. Life is going to go on and everything will work itself out. It’s not worth it to wallow in self-pity. Forgive yourself.
In fact, treat yourself
The moments after we realize we’ve made a bad decision are not the time to worry about that diet we’ve been sticking to or how tight our budget is. We need to start feeling better about ourselves right away and move on with our lives.
Find those foods you’ve been craving and eat away. Treat yourself to a romantic, solo movie night. Pleasure yourself a couple times. Whatever your cup of tea, care for yourself like it’s your last day on earth (hopefully it’s not.)
Find a distraction
Whatever it takes to keep your mind off the bad decision will work. Usually these aren’t things that are very productive. Stick to television, movies, or hanging out with friends. I often like the latter, as friends will usually have a story or two about their bad decisions to make you feel better. What are friends for after all.
Believe you can fix it
There are very few bad decisions that are going to have a lasting effect on our lives, and even those decisions are often fixable. Fixing a bad decision can be hard work and depressing, but we’re all capable of doing it. Remember, we’ve been fixing mistakes our whole life. This time will be no different.
Feeling bad about a decision can be a good thing. It can often show us that our life is on a negative path and lead us to change for the better. Always remember: bad decisions don’t make us a bad person.