“Nothing is permanent in this wicked world, not even our troubles” – Charlie Chaplin
Within every great story, there is always trouble. Trouble arises in the form of heartbreak, failure, or a F-12 tornado whirling with sharks that breaks down the heroes of the story and leaves them finished. Just when we think the heroes have lost, we see them become stronger, grow, and build themselves up to overcome whatever life threw at them and come out victorious. No matter how they do it, the stories always end the same way: the challenge is defeated because those who defeated it improved themselves.
It’s a tale as old as time, but it’s funny how we pass off the message conveyed in this story as just another novel, video game, or Hollywood film. For many of us, our problems and hard times seem to drown us and suck away any confidence or happiness we have left. It’s understandable; life can be tough. Bad things happen. I can certainly speak from the comfort of my home and say that I don’t want the problems that others have.
But, just like every story we’ve ever read or seen, the hero always comes out on top, and they do it by showing their true colors in the tough times.
We have the power within us to overcome this.
No matter what struggle life hits us with, we are strong enough to persevere.
For those of us going through a tough time, here are 5 tips for getting through.
- Think of it as an just an obstacle
It’s important that, regardless of any difficulty we face, that we approach the situation as just another bump in the road. It’s easy for us to invite all of our problems into a giant pity party and wallow in self-hurt, but doing this only makes it harder to call the cops and bust it up.
Like any obstacle, we need to realize that it is going to take some hard work to move past the pain that we are feeling. We can try all we want to distract ourselves from the problem, but it will never really go away until we make a conscious effort to move forward through the storm. Some country singer that I don’t feel like looking up said “If you’re going through hell, keep on going!” How true is that?
Great song too.
- Seek Guidance
The best part about having friends and family is that they are always there in our times of need. We have a habit of trying to take all of the energy from our problems and bear the weight of the world like were Atlas, but it doesn’t have to be this way.
We keep good people in our life for a reason. Just like we would want to be there to help them through their pain, they’re also eager to help us through ours. For the most part, they have seen us go through hurt before and will know just how to help us.
Let them help. Maybe they’ll treat you to some dinner or a night out of drinks. Can’t argue with that deal can we?
- Count Our Blessings
Unfortunately, going through a tough time emits a fog on our life that blocks out all of good things that are happening or the areas that we can be thankful for. The good things in our life become like ninjas; you know they’re there but we just can’t see them.
Keeping a gratitude journal is something I always say I am going to do but have never accomplished. It would come in handy during that rough times of my life, so I suggest it to anyone who might be struggling or who may struggling in the future (so, everyone).
A gratitude journal is a place where we can write down all of life’s gifts that make us happy. Small or large, writing them down and reading them when were fighting sadness or depression can help reawaken us to all of the reasons we can be happy. In doing so, we are taking a large step in bouncing back to our normal state of enjoyment.
- Remember the Past
Normally, I’m not one to condone any kind of dabbling in the past. The past is the past for a reason and we need to remember to let it go if we hope to get anywhere in our life.
With that being said, remembering the past when going through a tough time is helpful. Many of us have experienced so many horrible things in our lives, but we always make it through. 100%. Otherwise we wouldn’t be here to read this. We have a perfect record for getting through bad days, weeks, months, even years!
Let’s not forget that. We have done this before and we can do it again.
- Reconnect with Ourselves
When tragedy strikes, our lives often take a sudden turn. Our focus can be thrown in several different directions at once and, often times, we neglect the one person who really matters: us.
Regardless of the situation, being able to reconnect with who we are and what we’re all about is crucial during the bad days. We must force ourselves to remember the good that exists within us, the strength we have always possessed, and the goals that we still want to achieve. Our happiness and well-being can never be left to dwindle and disappear, so we must learn to build ourselves back up.
It is no secret that life can be difficult and bad events can deter us from our path. We are allowed to feel pain, sorrow and defeat from time to time. Such emotions give us a full life and wake us up to the good emotions as well. Once we’ve given ourselves enough time, we need to push through the pain.
We need to become the hero we know we are.