“If you end up with a boring, miserable life because you listened to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television telling you how to do your sh*t, then you deserve it” – Frank Zappa
Indeed, Frank, indeed.
What Frank Zappa, one of the greatest guitarists to ever walk this earth, is eluding to in his extremely blunt quote is that the very foundation on which we can build our beliefs, our habits, our morals, and our thinking can also be the hitch that is keeping us from living our lives to their fullest.
How is that so?
Have our parents not raised us from day one to go out and achieve everything that we desire? Have our teachers not prepared us for the future? Has society not shown us a path for happiness and how to live our lives?
I think, when we ask these questions and present them in this aspect, it’s clear the answer is F NO to some if not all of those.
But, what if in some twisted, insane science experiment like something out of American Horror Story, society and these authority figures have drilled a probe so deep into our psyche that we’re living life by their guidelines and we don’t even know we’re doing it!
I hope you’re a fan of surprises because SURPRISE, they have, and it’s commonly referred to as our subconscious.
Each one of us is our own individual person and each one of us has lived a different life with different experiences. This life and these experiences build up our subconscious which essentially generates our thinking or actions when were not actually thinking or acting. This same subconscious also effects our reactions to situations, our instant responses or thoughts during conversations, and even our dreams or vision for our future.
Has there ever been a time where we have been faced with a challenge, a new task, or a possible goal where we instantly said to ourselves “We can’t do that!”? Maybe something like:
- Public Speaking (totally me)
- Moving out of our hometown (also so me)
- Traveling to somewhere far away
- Doing something dangerous or adventurous (sky diving, wind surfing, running a marathon)
- Becoming a billionaire
- Becoming famous
- Becoming incredibly fit and sexy
Why do some people gain these skills, achieve these feats or make these decisions and some people don’t? What is the main difference between them?
The main factor that separates a boring, unfulfilled life and an exciting, fulfilling life is our philosophy on how we should live.
If our philosophy on life is that it’s OK to be average, than we’re going to be average. If our philosophy on life is that playing it safe is always the best decision, that we’ll never get out of our comfort zone. If our philosophy on life is that we could never possibly become filthy rich, own a baseball team, become an astronaut, or do something seriously out of this world, than we will never do it!
But guess what, someone out there has and someone out there will because their philosophy on life said they could.
To tie it all back in like we would tie our shoes, our philosophy on life is built by our subconscious, which in turn, has been built by the experiences and teachings we’ve had our whole life.
That’s why the rich stay rich and the poor stay poor. That’s why the greats stay great and the mediocre stay mediocre. That’s why some people succeed and other people fail. Because those who achieve the best believe they can do it, from deep within their subconscious.
Ugh, there’s tons of information up there. I feel like I just wrote a novel!
Now, the good news is, the way our subconscious is built is not our fault. We weren’t in control of our childhood and the events we’ve experienced. I can’t help that I love Nacho Cheese Doritos, that’s just what I grew up with. I can’t help that I’m afraid of the guy from Halloween, I was traumatized at my uncles house when I was 8!
But, if we ever want to lead that incredible life that we’ve been dreaming about each and every day when we’re slaving away working for the man, we must change the story we’ve been telling ourselves our whole life! Change the philosophy! Change the subconscious!
And here are 5 ways how:
- Experience as much as possible
Go out there and just live like a wild person! Do what you want! Say yes to as much as possible and have as many experiences as possible. The more experiences we have, the wiser we’ll be and the more likely we are to becoming the exact person we want to be.
Experiences built our subconscious, therefore, new experiences will change our subconscious.
- Observe other’s successes
Part of growing up in the 21st century is you just have to get used to seeing all of these beautiful people on social media doing all of the sweet stuff that we want to be doing. I just watched a video of these crazy BMX riders riding along mountain tops and forest paths and thought son of a bee sting I want to be doing that right about now.
Let’s learn from these people. Find the people who are doing what we want to be doing and reach out to them. Ask them about their story and their success. Success breeds success so only naturally would we becoming more successful and inspired by learning from someone who has done what we want to do.
- Ignore our initial thoughts
There has been a lot that has been said about trusting our gut and trusting our initial reaction in certain situations. It’s almost like a mysterious, Star War’s esc force builds up inside us and instantaneously gives us a thought, answer or action in a life scenario.
However, this sort of force is just our subconscious feeding us the information we already know and trying to keep us on the path we’re already on. In order to stray from that path, in order to re-wire our subconscious like a car battery, we need to learn to ignore this initial reaction and create our own.
If it feels awkward and weird, than you’re doing it right!
- Ignore the thoughts of others
So now that we know where our subconscious came from (teachings, TV, society, etc.), we need to learn to ignore those same areas that built our subconscious into what it has become. If we know exactly where we can go and exactly what we want to achieve, than those same sources are going to feed us the information they’ve always been feeding us to try to deter us from that goal.
Don’t let them. Stay the course and force your subconscious to recreate itself to achieve your dreams. If you believe it, you can do it!
- Enjoy the process
It’s as clear as the sky on a cloudless night that things don’t just happen overnight. Therefore, we can’t be discouraged when the reworking of our subconscious doesn’t happen right away.
That’s when we need to fall in love with the process. Fall in love with all the new experiences we’re having, all of the times where we told our body and mind yes instead of no, and all of the times we pushed the limits of our life.
In the end, these will be the times we look back on and feel like we really made it all happen. These will be the times where we’ll remember how, against everything we’d been taught or feed, we kicked life in the a** and made it happen our way.
Be that success story.